Any of you who have been following my blog for any length of time will know that I’ve been out of the kink scene for … well, longer than I wanted to be. Sure, I’ve been active online through my own various perversions, Fetlife and porn of course, but actual in person play? Oh geeze. The last time I had any good, solid play was last April when I went to SINSations in Leather in Chicago.
The last couple of months I have been on the hunt for suitable playmates who have compatible interests with my own. I thought finding someone who enjoyed dishing out a good spanking and beating wouldn’t be so hard in the third largest city and surrounding area in the United States. Right? Wrong. Finding someone I want to play with is work on so many levels. Besides the obvious trust issues, it has to be someone I have an intellectual and physical attraction to. That alone is a daunting task. They also need to share at least some of my kinks and have a willingness to push through some of the bratiness and little girl behavior that I sometimes exhibit when playing.
Needless to say, it felt like a daunting task. I found someone I trust … then found out he liked kink but not beating. Okay next. I found someone willing to beat me, but with little time to do so when my schedule afforded me the opportunity. Next again. My biggest stumbling point was my anxiousness in actually meeting someone “new.” That could go wrong in any number of ways! (Kink PSA – if someone doesn’t have recommendations from people you even remotely know, it’s best to take things slow and meet up somewhere public.)
I found myself conversing with someone I’d met at SINSations and enjoyed the company of while there. He’s a friend of my friends, well respected and pretty public on the scene. I played my cat and mouse game, leaving hints, suggestive comments and at times outright requests. Finally he said, “Do you want to play?” Thanks to busy schedules and random things, it took some time to finally line up the day.
I soon found myself sitting outside of a “seedy” hotel by O’Hare International Airport. The idea was a rendezvous at what you’d normally consider a seedy hotel and make it feel all gritty and “wrong.” One of my kinks is a bit of degradation play and I loved this idea. We’d talked about some things that were possibilities for play, but quite honestly I just wanted someone else to decide these things. There are a few things that are no-gos for me, hard limits they’re called. No hair pulling. No ball gags (in general.) No extensive bruising in areas I couldn’t cover. I’m sure I’m forgetting some here.
He was lovely through dinner, as expected. When we got back to the room though, I was ready. I’d prepped myself mentally and physically to get beat and my bum was so ready to feel the warm sting of pain. I’ve always found that transitioning from conversation to full out play to be an awkward thing, but thankfully simply bending over to look in my purse for lipbalm turned into getting my ass felt up and fingernails raked across my back. I still have delicious marks three days later from all the scratches.
Side note – You’ll forgive me here if I’m a little sketchy on the details. I was a bit preoccupied to really digest what was going on, but I will give you the highlights.
Since he’s a rope guy and I’m interested in playing with rope more often than once a year, my wrists were bound so I couldn’t wiggle too much. As he’d told me ahead of time, I got thrown on the bed and my bum got inspected. The glorious return to hands and fists pounding on me. How I missed thee. My body has changed a lot since the last time I played and he found new areas that I didn’t know would be tender and sweet. I guess losing 15 pounds in a year will do that to a person. When I flinched or squirmed after he hit a particular area, that was the cue to focus.
Bound and immobilized into the fetal position, my ass soon became the target for a roll of fun toys. I know someone of them thanks to familiar sensations but I couldn’t tell you exactly given that I was face down in the bed. Floggers, paddles, fists and hands – oh my! Cold lube was spread on my asshole and something cold and hard was pressed in. To my great delight it was a delicious anal hook. Yes, I after admiring them for years, my anal hook cherry was finally popped. It was roped to my wrist and ankle restraints such that when I squirmed too much it would effectively make the hook pull tighter. More blows ensued and I felt the hot glow of familiarity. My apple bottom was soon becoming a red delicious apple, borrowing a phrase from my tormenter.
Here’s where I make another PSA. Anal play in real life isn’t like porn, people. Weird things happen. Embarrassing things happen. One of the most mortifying moments of my life happened. Will I tell you? Yeah, I think I’ll pass on that. The sign of a good top is taking that embarrassment I was feeling and turning into mood for the scene. Seamlessly putting me in that shy, little girl mode that made me blush bright red and apologize what felt like a thousand times. It was a credit to my playmate that he was able to do that and do that well. Am I still embarrassed? Hell yes. Honestly I think I’ll be embarrassed about it for years.
He stood me up and proceeded to pay attention to my forgotten front side. Punches, scratches, slaps and all kinds of other blows landed on my supple breasts and flesh. The upper sides of my breasts and armpit area are still sore. One thing that was lovely about this particular “seedy” hotel room was that there were several mirrors in there, probably more than you’d think for a low budget hotel. There’s nothing like watching someone pound away on your flesh than watching it in a mirror. It’s a fun combination of objectification, degradation and submission.
It seemed we were winding down and we both agreed it was probably better to stop. His theory? Have a few slower, introductory scenes before having longer phenomenal scenes. My pounding, burning ass wasn’t disagreeing and neither was my mind. We cuddled and chatted, exchanging stories of weird things that had happened to us in our regular lives and kink lives. Inevitably parting ways with a hug and an agreement that it was fun, I was on my merry little way back to life in white bread America. My ass felt every bump in the road during my drive, by the way.
Days later I’m left with lovely purple bruises and a wonderful ache in my ass. I’m also left with a desire to do it again and do it more in depth. We didn’t play with a lot of the d/s themes I’m looking for still, but that takes time. Building that connection and that chemistry doesn’t happen overnight and certainly doesn’t happen the first time you play with someone. It’s a slow give and take. For me, it’s a process of learning and trusting to give up power. It’s about finding myself in the mindset to want to do so.
Would I play with this person again? Yes, very much so. My bruises tell me he definitely has the ability and skill I’m looking for and glimpses of the dominance I crave. But much like life, it’s an evolution. Nobody knows where things may take us or when schedules may line up again.
My return to kink and impact play was enjoyable and only left me wanting more. That adrenaline rush is addictive. I’ve long admitted I am addicted to the pound of a fist, the woosh of a flogger, the impact of a paddle and the throw of a glance. The only question is when I’ll get my next hit of my addiction.
I have people ask me all the time: “What’s your favorite [insert category of sex toys]?” Over the years I’ve tried so many it would make most people’s heads spin. Hell, if you look at which toys are in my collection, the number really is quite staggering. I didn’t even realize I’d tried that many until I actually sat down and listed them all.
Sex toys come and go but I find myself gravitating back to the tried and true ones. These are the toys that will forever hold a dear place in my heart and bedside drawer.
Okay so you know how I have a love of jeweled anal plugs? Unfortunately my last foray into that type of plug left me wanting more, left me wanting something of better quality and a prettier jewel. For ages I’ve lusted after the Crystal Delights glass anal plugs. After hearing some of the great things people have said about these plugs and seeing the beautiful selection of colors, these plugs have been on my wishlist for quite some time. The great people at Virtually Adult contacted me and offered to send me one after reading my lackluster experience with the Cal Exotics Aluminum Mini.
After the initial shock at the possibility of receiving one, I had to select what size and color I wanted. I browsed the selection available to me and decided that the smaller necked plug would be better for me because of my petite size. The color selection was harder. They’re all so pretty! But ultimately I decided on getting the clear one. Why is that? Because it looks like a giant diamond! How could I pass up having a giant diamond in my ass? So what does the gem look like? It looks absolutely gorgeous in person.
The package I received from Virtually Adult arrived at my doorstep and I quickly pulled off the packaging to get my hands on what I hoped would be a beautiful anal plug. The toy came wrapped in glittery tissue paper with a wonderful sticker on the seal. You can tell that someone put a lot of care in packaging your plug and that you’re getting something special. I gingerly unwrapped the paper and found the black storage sleeve the plug comes with. Elastic wraps secure the roll around the plug, keeping it safe and ensures that it won’t be damaged either in transport or while you own it.
I undid the elastics and unrolled the sleeve to find not only my new glass plug but also some free gifts that were included! I received a sample of water-based Boy Butter and two Lifestyles Ultra Thin condoms. Also included was a card about the Crystal Delights line of plugs with two glass charms attached to the card. I got blue glass hearts that are absolutely gorgeous.
But enough about my free gifts. What about my plug?! I swear from the moment I set my eyes on it I was in love. The plug itself is made from 100% handblown Pyrex glass. This type of glass has been shown to be safe for internal use. The glass is extremely clear and I looked all over it for flaws, chips or defects. I simply couldn’t find any. It’s flawless. The gem on the end of the stem is quite possibly the sparkliest thing I’ve ever seen at that size. It is a Swarovski crystal, the best that is on the market. It doesn’t even compare to the crappy plastic gem that was in the Cal Exotics Aluminum Mini. It’s like night and day comparing the two. Quite honestly, this looks like a giant diamond, no kidding.
One of my favorite aspects to this plug is that the glass is great for temperature play. I love playing with cold moreso than heat. While I don’t recommend this for an extended period of time, I pop my glass toys into the freezer for ten to fifteen minutes to cool them down. The general recommendation is that you should gradually raise or lower the temperature by using warm or cool water. Too rapid temperature shifts in either direction have the possibility of scalding or freezing skin when touched to it. The rare possibility is cracking the glass and that’s definitely not something you want.
The other feature I like about this plug is the weight. As I’ve mentioned before in regards to anal plugs, I like plugs with some weight. I like to be reminded that I’m plugged and filled. Even more so when I’m in a submissive position because it reminds me who is controlling my holes. This plug definitely delivers in the weight I like. Each small plug weighs in at approximately 5 ounces.
Because this plug is glass, it means you can use it with any type of lube. Water based, silicone based, or oil based. You can use anything with this plug. I suggest cleaning it immediately upon removing it with warm to hot water and antibacterial soap. You might be able to put it in the top rack of your dishwasher as well, but I have not tested this. I would be hesitant to do this only because of the gem even though the gem is very well secured into the plug.
So how did the plug feel inside me? Pretty much as I expected it would. I loved it. At it’s widest point, the plug is approximately 1 1/2 inch in diameter and has an insertable length of 2 3/4 inches. The flared base of the plug sits comfortably between the ass cheeks and I don’t feel that it would slip inside your ass. The stem is so narrow the your bum closes around it securely. I think with the longer version of this plug, the neck may slip in and out if you don’t clench your ass the entire time. I am much happier with this shorter necked version.
Because the diameter is fairly small on this plug in comparison to what plugs can be, it is fairly easy to put in. That being said, it’s probably not for anal play virgins. I love anal play and have slightly relaxed my ass to the point that I can slip plugs in with little to no relaxation ahead of time. What do I suggest with this plug? Go slow and use lube to get it in. If you are female, clitoral stimulation helps with relaxation and insertion I have found. Perhaps some play first and then try inserting plugs that are larger in diameter than the average finger.
One gripe I have is in regard to the black storage sleeve that comes with. To be honest, it stinks. Two days after it’s been sitting out on my desk and it still smells. It’s the typical fake leather and plastic smell I think. I love the sleeve but hate the smell it has. I’m really really hoping the smell goes away with time because the sleeve is fantastic for storing this plug. It keeps it safe and padded. There’s no damaging this delicate plug when it’s in the sleeve.
Overall I really can’t say enough good things about this plug. It’s beautiful, weighty, and looks like a ginormous diamond in your ass. It’s wonderfully decorative and I can imagine wearing this out to dinner with a partner under a dress, perhaps giving them a flash here and there during the night to tease them with the knowledge my ass is sparkling for them. The sheer knowledge that I’m wearing this is so erotic. Wearing any plug for me is definitely what I consider one of the best ways you can be an undercover kinkster. Nobody needs to know that you’re wearing a toy in your ass unless you tell them or show them.
The Crystal Delights Crystal Clear Glass Anal Plug (small) is sold through Virtually Adult. It comes in two different sizes, regular and small. Currently, these plugs are available in eight colors, but I suspect more may be added soon. The small size sells for $79.95 and the regular size sells for $89.95. This plug comes in a special dichroic gem plug for $129.95. Run, don’t walk to the Crystal Delights page on Virtually Adult. Once you see these plugs you’ll fall in love with them just like I did. You’ll simply have to add one to your anal toy collection!
For longer than I can honestly recall, I’ve been interested in the beauty of anal plugs. I just couldn’t ever get enough of looking at them. But one problem – I was ardently anti anything anal. Being involved with my first dominant man made me open up to the idea of anal and finally after him saying that all his girls are anal sluts, I finally purchased my first plug with his prompting. By the next weekend I’d already upgraded to a larger one. Since then I’ve been in love with all things anal and definitely have a very soft spot for all things anal plug.
On top of my rather long anal toy wishlist always has been a jeweled plug. I simply cannot explain how gorgeous I think they look. The little jewel nestled between two butt cheeks, sparkling and tempting the looker into coming closer and touching. And if the sparkle was attached to a metal plug? Even better! I love weight to my plugs and often times the weightier, the better.
One downside to my love of these jeweled plugs is the outrageous price often attached to these lovely creatures. Some metal jeweled plugs can run upwards of $100 and on my budget, that kind of price tag is simply out of the question. That’s more than I spend on my cable and internet bill in a month! So when I stumbled upon EdenFantasys.com‘s Crazy Thursday sale for the Cal Exotics Aluminum Mini at an astounding price of $25.99 (30% off regular price) I couldn’t resist. This was a deal simply too good to pass up.
One thing I love about Eden Fantasys is the great customer service you receive as a customer there. They really look out for your wallet, offering great sales, discounts, every day $5.95 USPS Priority Shipping, and fast shipping. I placed my order on Thursday and received it on Monday. How can that be beat?
But anyway, back to the plug. The packaging that the plug comes nestled in is quite different than most. The tip display cover comes off and the seamless aluminum plug is nestled in a bed of black satin-like material with padding underneath. Makes it seem like what you’re getting is rare and precious. Okay, well sort of.
I picked up the plug and I was impressed with the weight for the size of it. At 3 inches long and 1.25 inches at it’s widest point, this plug weighs 3.20 ounces. For something rather little that’s a good weight. Makes me think this plug is solid aluminum. And as someone who likes my ass toys weighty, I won’t deny the thought of walking around with this made me very wet.
Turning the plug around in my hand, the blue stone on the end is clearly not actually a gemstone. At best it’s plastic. Later I found out it’s one of those plastic gems you can buy at any craft store to glue on. How did I find this out? A few days after receiving it, I picked it up again and wiggled it around in my hands and the gem popped right out the end! Granted, this is nothing a little super glue couldn’t fix, but I’m not exactly thrilled with the fact the gem fell right out. If I had been wearing this plug and the gem had done this, I may have not found it. I’m just happy I caught it so I can glue it back on. To say I was a bit displeased with this was a bit of an understatement.
The plug is made of aluminum which is smooth, non-porous, phthalates free and also latex free. Because of this it is good for people with specific material allergies or those who want something you can use with silicone lubes for longer lasting lubrication. Actually, any type of lubricant could be used with this, but what I used was water-based as it is a majority of my lube.
After my initial examination, I couldn’t wait to try it out. I dropped my shorts and dabbed on a little of my favorite lube, Wet Original Water-based, and reached around to slide it in my butt. I consider myself an medium to advanced anal toy user and I’ve had a wide variety of toy sizes in my butt. Normally I use a little clitoral stimulation to aid in the insertion of anal toys but the small size of this plug was such that it slid right in when I relaxed and inserted it. Someone just starting out with anal play may not find this ease of insertion to be true for them, but I certainly was a bit disappointed. I like a bit of a struggle to put something in my backdoor.
When it properly nestled inside of me, I could barely feel the weight. Sure, I felt the fullness and a bit of stretching, but suddenly I was thinking that maybe I should have gone for the bigger 4 inch version of this plug than the smaller 3 inch one I selected.
The narrow neck made sure it sat properly in my bum and didn’t feel uncomfortable. The base isn’t very wide though so I am concerned that with longer term wearing the gem end may slip inside me and because of this I probably wouldn’t wear it for long periods of time. After looking in the mirror and admiring my pretty bum with its sparkly jewel decoration, I went over and sat down to test how comfortable it was to sit. The pointed tip of the plug led to some poking inside of me. Most likely I would wear this toy if I was up and about, not sitting for more than a few moments because of the pointy tip and the small base which could get sucked inside my bum during sitting.
As for cleaning this plug, one thing I like is that it is very easy. After wearing I immediately wash it with anti-bacterial soap and warm water. If I’m not putting it away immediately I let it air dry but most of the time I wipe it off with a clean towel and return it to my toy drawer. Eden Fantasys’ website indicates you can wash aluminum in the top rack of your dishwasher as well, but this might be best done if the jewel pops out or after you’ve more firmly affixed it with stronger holding super glue.
I’m excited about the possibility of experimenting with temperature play with this aluminum plug as aluminum makes for great temperature retention. I’m thinking about cooling it down in the fridge or freezer for a short period of time and then inserting it for a completely different sensation. I’ve done it before with my glass plug and enjoyed it immensely.
Overall? I like the concept of this toy. The finishing details aren’t the greatest to be perfectly honest. The low quality of the gemstone combined with the fact it popped out right away gives me pause as to the overall quality of the plug. The pointy tip is not that comfortable and I’m concerned about longer term wearing thanks to the super narrow base and that pointy tip. It’s a cute plug though and the downsides to it definitely don’t detract me from the overall fact that it’s a metal plug with a pretty sparkly “gem” in the base. It’s like jewelry for your asshole! What more could you ask for?
If you’re interested in buying the Aluminum Mini by Cal Exotics, you can find it on Eden Fantasys‘ website here. Remember to enter code “DZZ” in the affiliate code box at checkout for 15% off your entire purchase!